Relationships can bring us our greatest joy. Feeling safe and connected as a couple, where each of you can share your thoughts, feelings and beliefs in a way that you both feel heard, seen and valued, brings joy to both partners. Research tells us how beneficial loving relationships are—people live longer, experience less stress, and feel a greater sense of satisfaction in their life. But what if your relationship is in distress? You are far from alone. Close, intimate, and connected relationships are tended to, like a garden. Many of us do not know how to tend this garden let alone exactly how to get to this Eden once we feel lost in despair or loneliness.
Many times, couples get lost in a negative cycle, or dance. One partner says something hurtful to the other, the other reacts, this reaction then hurts their partner and it continues to ping pong back and forth until it escalates into an argument leading one partner to disconnect either by giving in, shutting down or walking away. In the end, both partners feels bad, but neither knows how to change their cycle. Consequently, many couples have the same fights about the same topics and neither feel understood or heard. Over time, this pattern begins to erode the closeness and feelings of fondness and love that once existed.
What we do know about love and relationships is that even when couples are distressed, through the help of couple’s counseling, they can create a safe, loving, secure relationship with one another. Once this happens, hot topic issues that fueled so many arguments—money, kids, work, family—are talked about in a new way.
CCT helps couples understand these negative patterns that exist in the relationship, where you each learn how to recognize and stop the cycle, and communicate and understand your own and your partner’s needs and desires in a new way, so that together you create a different dance that feels good because it is in sync.