ARE YOU STRUGGLING WITH YOUR CHILD’S SLEEP AND/OR BEHAVIOR?
- Are you exhausted and overwhelmed, tired of feeling you are constantly battling your child?
- Is your child waking too often during the night?
- Are you facing bedtime battles every night?
- Do you long for a sense of peace in your home?
- Do you feel that you should be able to figure this out, but can’t find a solution that works?
It can feel discouraging to feel tired and lost as a parent. If the family is not getting the necessary sleep then everyone is less resilient; parenting decisions made from a place of exhaustion may provide temporary relief, but usually leave parents wondering when and if they will be able to return to a sense of normalcy.
Once the initial excitement of becoming parents transitions to the day to day raising of child(ren), many parents begin to compare themselves or their children to others. Sometimes parents feel everyone else has an easier child or they believe they should or ought to be able to figure this parenting thing out. Then comes a sense of guilt for not being the parent you envisioned or feelings of resentment because you are up all night with your child. Many times parents are working hard, reading parenting books, and trying to implement what they learn or hear from others, but still feel stuck. You may struggle with understanding what are appropriate boundaries, how to discipline while simultaneously provide emotional support, so your child feels secure and loved. Enforcing family boundaries and rules all the while promoting healthy attachments so your children feel valued and cared for can feel conflicting and confusing!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE
The vast majority of parents feel stuck at some point in the first decade of parenting–typically at many points! This can be around their child’s sleep and/or on how to discipline their child in a way that reflects their values as a family.
A large degree of parents experience issues around sleep before their child’s sixth birthday, especially during the first three years of life. Parents of babies who are easy sleepers are often surprised to learn that many sleep problems develop between 6 to 9 months of age. Once kids are sleeping well, many parents then feel confusion on how to parent the toddler and school age years. What is developmentally appropriate? How do enforce healthy sleep habits without harming my child’s sense of attachment? How do I discipline my child without hurting their sense of self esteem and worth?
At this point, some parents find themselves fighting about what is the best approach for their child. Both parents care deeply, but disagreeing as a couple escalates the stress felt by the family.