Here’s what the experts know about relationship therapy–it’s highly effective at creating change that is lasting, and it impacts both individuals and the relationship. However, when it comes to couples therapy, not all approaches are created equal. Sadly, customer satisfaction is notoriously low when it comes to couples therapy.. This is most likely because many therapists without specific training in relationship issues will still treat couples. Thus, some couples leave the experience feeling disheartened.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, or EFT, is an “evidenced-based” approach, meaning it is backed by decades of data that shows significant results in improving couples’ relationships. In fact, 70% of couples who work with an EFT therapist report feeling more satisfaction in their relationship. And these feelings persist years after the couple has discontinued therapy. This is critical. EFT is not just about providing you with relationship skills–it’s about changing how you engage in the relationship, which can lead to transformation of the relationship itself. Similar to the dieting phenomena, giving couples skills has been shown to help in the short term (if at all), whereas EFT is a “lifestyle” change that helps you make lasting changes from the inside out.
EFT is rooted in attachment theory, which many of us think of as a parent/child relationship. However, adult love relationships follow the same principles of attachment; our desire for secure love is essential to our well being. The exciting field of neuroscience is continuously supporting these assertions regarding our innate need for love, connection and care.
Imagine how incredible it would be to feel seen by your partner, understood and validated. Intimacy is taken to an entirely new level when two people feel safe and secure with one another. It’s a magical process, and I am always honored to be a part of a couple’s journey to create this type of relationship.